>> Tuesday, March 23, 2010
My friend Brookie is so close to having her baby! Unfortunately her husband travels a lot for work so of course she needed some back up labor support. I was honored when she asked me to be one of them. I am taking my role very seriously now that she is almost 39 weeks. Tonight I took her to the movies and tried with no avail to talk her into letting me have a slumber party with her while hubby was out of town. I have my phone glued to my hand in anticipation. Her reasoning for picking me? Other than my complete awesomeness...
She knows I can take her yelling at me and still stay calm. She knows I am experienced. I can handle pressure. I can handle the unspoken labor rules...because I know them!
When I got home tonight Michael's had an interesting view on the situation.
Michael: I could so not stare at someone else's junk.
Me: Do you think that is what I would do?
Michael: I am just saying....
Me: I am just saying there is an unspoken rule of 'stay above the sheet' in all labor situations.
Michael: But what if you had to?
Me: Well if the situation arises and I have to birth the baby in the back seat then I do what I have to do and never speak of it again.
Michael: I just couldn't stare at a dude's junk.
Stay above the sheet. Wouldn't you agree? I remember Michael and I had this exact conversation when I was getting ready to have Lily. Under no circumstance was he to even glance past the sheet. I would like some resemblance of my dignity left in concern of my husband. If I had my choice the doctor wouldn't look if they didn't have too. I mean seriously no man needs to see his happy place destroyed. Am I right? I remember his face just being witness to some of the aftermath. I cannot imagine what he would have thought if he had witnessed the 'passage.'
I feel a similar belief about video cameras during labor. Who the hell wants to see that? Yuck. But hey I am sure there are people out there who wouldn't have it any other way and break out the old birth video for family christmas. Yeah have fun with that.
Now lucky for Michael I had a c-section so Michael's 'happy place' remained semi unscathed. But did you have the same rule? Stay above the sheet or witness the miracle of birth? Which is better? Did your Baby Daddy feel strongly one way or the other?